You’ve probably been on a date before but the guy didn’t ask you out on another date or the girl you dated declined to go out with you again. You probably asked yourself what went wrong after that last date. It might be that you and your date just don’t have enough in common, but it may also be that you just didn’t hit it off as well as you thought on your first date. If you find yourself in a date with someone that you really like, then you’re probably planning on the next date. So, it’s essential that you don’t do anything that will turn off your date. Be wary of committing these common dating mistakes:
Talking about an ex during a first date
This is a definite no-no when it comes to dating. Nobody wants to hear how bad your past relationship was or how your partner cheated on you and left you in the dust. Your date wouldn’t want to hear about your trauma or your emotional baggage. Keep in mind that going into the world of dating means that you’re ready to leave your past behind. Steer clear of talking about your past relationships because if you keep talking about your ex, your date may get the idea that you’re not over him or her yet.
Constantly talking about work
You may love your job or hate it, but you don’t have to talk about it during your dates. This may just turn your date off. If your date asks about your job, you can give an overview on what you do and whether you enjoy it or would like to pursue another career. Don’t go into the details of your work, especially if it’s all technical jargon that your date won’t understand.
Showing insecurity
People tend to get turned off by insecurity. If you’re going on a date, appear confident and self-assured. Don’t appear to be fishing for compliments and don’t trash-talk anyone in front of your date. When you say bad things about other people, you only tend to seem insecure about yourself and insensitive to other people.
Looking for sympathy
When you’re on a date, refrain from talking about your personal problems. Don’t look for sympathy from your date. Keep in mind that a date is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If you find yourself thinking about your problems and feeling sad, think positively and just focus on what your date is saying. In case the conversation halts, start a conversation about safe topics that will surely keep the two of you talking.
The key to making dates work is to make sure that you don’t come off as someone who isn’t ready to date or have a relationship yet. Don’t be too self-absorbed and keep in mind that you have to make your date feel that you’re interested in him or her. Keep the conversation light and the date fun, and you might find yourself going on dates more often, and eventually settling into a steady relationship.