First dates can have you feeling jittery and uneasy, but also eager and excited. It’s only natural that you would want to impart a good impression because first dates can always lead to something more in case things go well. The impressions you impart during the first date will set the tone on whether the two of you can eventually enter into a steady relationship.
What to do when preparing for a date
It all starts while you’re preparing to go on a date. Make sure that you groom yourself well because this is an indication that you want to look good for your date. You also need to wear something flattering but comfortable. Consider the place you’re going to and the activities you’ve planned for your date. It’s important for you to be comfortable in what you’re wearing because, if you’re not, it can affect your mood and give off the impression that you’re not confident or interested enough in your date.
Dos and donts regarding first dates
Do appear interested in your date. Keep eye contact and maintain good body posture. While your date is talking, wait for him or her to finish before you start speaking.
Don’t hesitate to give your date your full attention. Listen when your partner is speaking and let your opinions be known.
Do remember what your date says and what stories you tell. Make it a point to remember the things your date likes so that you can file these away in your brain and label them as “romantic things to do” should your first date lead to future dates.
Don’t keep on repeating one story or focus on just one topic while you’re on a date. If you see your date’s eyes glaze over or if he or she keeps on glancing at the clock, chances are you need to switch to another topic and be more interesting.
Do ask about your date’s friends and family. These are the people that he or she spends so much time with. This topic will make your date happy to share some things that just might come in handy in case you reach that stage when you’re going to be introduced to friends and family members. If your date mentions divorce or dysfunction, subtly veer away from the topic.
Don’t ask about past relationships or bring up your own. Keep in mind that conversation should be kept apart from your exes when on a date. When you say negative things about your ex, you’ll come off as bitter. If you keep on saying positive things about your ex, your date might think you’re not over your ex yet.